So let’s talk about value.
How much time do you spend wondering how others feel about you? Now, how much time do you spend thinking about how you feel about you?
If I were to guess, I would say that you spend significantly more time wondering how someone thought about that thing you said or that dress you wore or that awkward joke you told, than you do thinking about how important that thing was to you or how much you love that dress or that little giggle you give yourself every time you tell that joke. It would be my guess that you don’t spend nearly enough time thinking about all the wonderful things that make you who you are.
We tend to put a lot of weight into the value we receive from others. But fact is, the most important question is how do we value ourselves. If we value ourselves, those who are worthy of also valuing us will come. Because we will have standards, we will know our worth, we won’t settle for anything less.
So how do you value yourself when you’re feeling value-less?
1. Take a moment to write down 3 things you LOVE about yourself every single day. Yes, EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. I suggest doing this in the morning to give yourself a little boost for your day. Go into your day knowing that you love you. And that love is the most important love. Without that love, nothing is as good and pure.
2. Do the little things that make your heart happy. Whether that’s going for a little walk, sitting in 5 minutes of silence, jumping up and down and screaming at the top of your lungs. If it makes your heart sing, do it as much as you can. Make it a part of your daily habits. Even if it’s only 10 minutes a day doing just one thing for you. Only you. Not for social media, not to share with your friends or boyfriend or girlfriend. Just you. Take that time. I guarantee you will feel better.
3. Back to writing. What are you grateful for? Write it down. Because paying attention to those little (or big) things you’re truly grateful for will show you who you are. And seeing yourself for you, for what’s important to you, will help you see your value, your worth. So do it. Just try it. It’s amazing the impact it can have.
It’s easy to focus on the way others perceive us. It’s a game, it’s a mystery, it’s confusing. And therefore it’s intriguing. But it often leads to abstract thoughts and made up scenarios that then affect our worth. Or it results in real scenarios with people who are not worthy of valuing you in the first place.
Take some time to give yourself some love today. Take some time to tell yourself you’re worthy. You’re valued.