Over the last few weeks, my belief in myself has become both more challenging and more beautiful in a variety of ways. Because of the experiences I have been facing, it has required a conscious recognition of who I am and why I love that person.
Throughout this, there are a few reminders I tell myself on a daily basis to accept myself, the place that I’m in and where I am going in my life. I thought it would be helpful to share some of those reminders here so you have something to turn to when self-doubt creeps in.
1. The challenges are all a part of the process.
Sometimes it can seem like the whole world is falling apart right in front of your eyes. But the beauty you have to look for is that with every challenge you face, there is a lesson to be learned. If you pay close attention, you can start to see that each challenge happens for a reason, to get you to a better place in your life or give you a reason to try something new or different. Emotions can be challenging, the way they creep in and out and feel uncontrollable. But if you can trust that the challenge at hand will eventually pass, you’ll be able to see a light at the end of the tunnel – even if that’s just a light you’ve created for now.
Stepping outside of the challenges and seeing how they might benefit you in the long run can be not only a beneficial technique, but also give you something to do and something to distract yourself with. And if you distract yourself long enough, the circumstances will naturally evolve. 😉
Look back on previous experiences you’ve had. Have you faced challenges before? How is what you’re going through now different than what you’ve experienced before? Did you get through what challenged you in the past? When you can start to take a step back and look at your life in the big picture, instead of what is happening right now, you get a bigger perspective that backs up the belief that you are capable of getting through each and every challenge that rockets your way.
The challenges are what make you who you are.
2. You’ll find growth every time you hit rock bottom.
This one connects directly to the point above. Because once you determine that the challenges are okay, they’re a part of the process and you’ll learn something from them, you can start to see the growth in yourself every time you conquer a hard time in your life. It will become easier with time – to see what you’re going through and think to yourself “I know I will learn something from this, I will grow from this and be a better person because of it.”
It’s not easy to change your frame of mind. I’m definitely not going to pretend that it is. But it is a good place to start reminding yourself so you can find your way back to believing in who you are. The more you remind yourself, the more natural it will become. It’s all about training your brain to believe a thought or concept that builds you up and encourages you to keep pushing forward.
The challenges are what make you who you are, the growth is the beauty that comes from those.
3. No one determines your worth except for you.
This one is really important. And likely the hardest one to wrap your brain around. Because we are constantly around others – people we love, people we dislike, people we don’t understand – it’s hard to separate yourself from what they think of you. When someone says something hurtful or does something behind your back, it hurts your belief in yourself and shakes your confidence. But you have to remember, what do you think of you? Do you think you deserved that hurt? Because as soon as you can start to recognize that usually when someone does something hurtful, it actually has nothing to do with you, the better off you’ll be.
Your worth is determined by you and you alone. There is no one who knows you better than you do and the more you believe in the worth you have, the less you will be affected by those who don’t value you. You are beautiful the way you are and your experiences make you that person, and the person you’ll become. Give yourself room to retrain your brain to believe in yourself every time you face a new experience that shakes your confidence.
The challenges are what make you who you are, the growth is the beauty that comes from those, and your worth is determined only by you.
Believe you are worthy.